Many teens have walked this steep path where they expect their "sweetheart" to hold their hand firmly, only for them to walk alone later on. It's a wayward pursuit to find love that inevitably leads to a ravine of desolation. Hate to break it to you, but these expectations are built on irrational assumptions. Yup, "delulu."
A slang term for "delusion," most of us have heard it before. More than that, we've been in this situation before, and we know it starts small. At first, it's a mere "happy crush"—an admiration free of restriction. By this time, you understand that it's an innocent gaze of youth, one that we're truly comfortable with. After all, it's a free-for-all lane with no known speed limits, and we're open to driving at whatever pace we like.
But that's just the tip of the iceberg, for a "delulu" later feels agitated to secure a bigger home to keep up with the growing feeling. You suddenly dream of her as your study companion, your late-night confidant, your best friend—or perhaps your future. You can't deny: It's now love you're finally feeling, and it's much deeper—it's the thing you surely don't want to miss.
The problem is, the stronger you feel towards her, the weaker you are in expressing it. You want to tell her, but for some reason, your mouth is zipped shut. Time after time, a disgruntled, delusional kid on you feels heartache, suffering in silence. You’ve invested time, energy, and emotions into this—only to watch from a distance as she finds happiness with someone else.
Worse, you assumed too much that it turns to obsession—a classic "delulu" trait. You overly believe that the one you love will be there for her. You go out your way to say that you'll always be there for her, but she can only thank you for it. No more, no less.
The pursuit of a "label" becomes an arduous task to bear. Later on, your body and mind will not unite with your "heart." In the end, you'll get your wish for companionship, but with sadness and pain, shattering your dreams into pieces.
Being delulu in love isn’t some harmless phase—it’s a setup for heartbreak. The worst part? It happens in the heat of the moment, making it difficult to recognize. Watch out, lads, because when you are confronted with it, he scrambles to put a band-aid action to it. In most cases, he ends up fighting on a lost cause, simply because you doesn't know how to protect his feelings. Ultimately, you crash. And you're left with nothing but mourning a love that never really existed.
What "delulus" are doing isn't a reflection of love. There, I say it boldly because I've been there. Everything started on a roll—no strings attached—but once you got yourself into the trouble of falling in love, there are only two choices: wake up and stop, or continue sleeping to relive the dream. The truth hurts: you can never elude this road, and all that it takes to pass through is to face reality.
The "delulu" dilemma has put the youth on a task to view love in a serious aspect. So the next time such small moments take your heart to an all-time high, remember to draw the fine line between admiration and obsession. Work on things that your heart can handle. Most importantly, while you are not sure of wanting reciprocation, never lower your worth.
In the end, love will rule all paths, but be wary of the one you're planning to take. Because delulu is indeed not the solulu.
Article by: Mr. Edcel Escaro, The Catalyst Editor-in-Chief
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